I’m the same. Unsolicited advice (or even strongly worded ideas about my life) make me feel…irritated. I suspect mine has to do with my autism and pathological demand avoidance because if something suggests something then I often don’t want to do it (even if I’d planned to!)
Anyhow, I am so very aware of this, and love you and never want to trigger that response in you. (I very rarely give advice unless someone asks me for it. Some people love advice, and every time it surprises me that they do! Ah brains!)
I wish I could come do your laundry or answer your emails. Or help in any way.
I am grateful to you for sharing your thoughts, your life, and the ups, downs, middles and sideways. I learn so much from your experiences.
First of all, I wish you and Charles a speedy and full recovery. I can really relate to your reaction to unsolicited advice. I myself am kind of ok with it and usually I'll answer that I'll look into it, even if I know I won't. Yes, a little white lie, I guess, playing nice. I myself always ask someone if there is anything I can help with. What really upsets me is that some people who gave unsolicited advice will get angry if I don't follow their advice. As if I had signed a contract that I would do as they say...
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I’m the same. Unsolicited advice (or even strongly worded ideas about my life) make me feel…irritated. I suspect mine has to do with my autism and pathological demand avoidance because if something suggests something then I often don’t want to do it (even if I’d planned to!)
Anyhow, I am so very aware of this, and love you and never want to trigger that response in you. (I very rarely give advice unless someone asks me for it. Some people love advice, and every time it surprises me that they do! Ah brains!)
I wish I could come do your laundry or answer your emails. Or help in any way.
I am grateful to you for sharing your thoughts, your life, and the ups, downs, middles and sideways. I learn so much from your experiences.
Thanks Wake. You don't offer unsolicited advice. I am grateful for you too. Sending love and hugs.
First of all, I wish you and Charles a speedy and full recovery. I can really relate to your reaction to unsolicited advice. I myself am kind of ok with it and usually I'll answer that I'll look into it, even if I know I won't. Yes, a little white lie, I guess, playing nice. I myself always ask someone if there is anything I can help with. What really upsets me is that some people who gave unsolicited advice will get angry if I don't follow their advice. As if I had signed a contract that I would do as they say...
thanks. it's weird that folks would get angry when their advice isn't taken. ugh.